This can be tough. We can’t get victory alone, and talking to someone can be very hard. Even if we are willing, finding the right person isn’t easy. It’s almost impossible to get victory alone, though. Realize you aren’t alone in this. All men struggle with this to some degree or another. It’s been an issue in my family as well. It’s a real trap of Satan’s! It can be defeated, though, if one wants to have victory.
First, here is a prayer you can pray to help have victory over the spiritual part.
Father, I confess that at various times in my life I have been powerless against the continuing attacks of the enemy on my sexuality. I have chosen to sin in various ways and ask You to forgive me for the following: (specifically confess each and every sin). I now agree with Your verdict on my sin. I renounce all pleasure associated with these sins. I ask You t cleanse my memories, heal the hurts and forgive me. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Often the source of this demonizing comes from ancestors who were open to pornography. This is called generational sin. When a demon claims access to one person he then claims their descendants as well.
Generational bondage can be broken by personally repenting of and confessing the sins of past generations. Claim the blood of Christ as stronger than your blood line and put that access under the blood of Jesus (Romans 5:15). Claim that you are a “new creation, old things have passed away, all things have become new” (II Corinthians 5:17). Ask God to turn curses into blessing (Deut. 23:5).
“Gracious Father over all, I acknowledge before you the sins of my parents and ancestors. I know that they have sinned because all men and women are sinners. And so, I openly confess the sins of my parents and ancestors. I am sorry for their sins against you and I ask that you cover their sins with the blood of Jesus and not hold their consequences against me or my descendants. I claim the finished work of Jesus Christ, Who bore all my sin upon Himself. In faith I accept that work on the basis of your holy Word. I reclaim any consent given to Satan’s forces by me parents’ sin. Dear Jesus, please set me free from all evil influences coming from my parents and ancestors in the name of Jesus. I know I am a new creation in Christ. Old things have gone and all things have become new. I here and now reject and disown all the sins of my ancestors. As one who has been delivered from the power of darkness and translated into the kingdom of God’s dear Son, I cancel out all demonic working that has been passed on to me from my ancestors. As one who has been crucified and raised with Christ and who sits with him in heavenly places, I reject any and every way in which Satan may claim ownership of me. I declare myself to be eternally and completely signed over and committed to the Lord Jesus Christ. I now command every familiar spirit and every enemy of the Lord Jesus Christ that is in or around me to flee my presence and never to return. I now ask You, heavenly Father, to fill me with Your Holy Spirit. I submit my body as an instrument of righteousness, a living sacrifice, that I may glorify You in my body. All this I do in the name & authority of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.”
Of course a good spiritual life (connecting with God in devotions each morning, reading your Bible, etc.) is a must.
Now, when you first get tempted, when the first thought pops into your mind, you must get victory over it. That only happens by quoting scripture. Jesus had victory over Satan by quoting scripture and that is our sword of the Spirit. Her are some passages you can use. Start quoting or reading them when tempted and don’t stop until well beyond the temptation.
2 Cor 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation ; the old has gone, the new has come! Ps 51:10-12 10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
LIVE IN HOLINESS Therefore, I urge you, brothers in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God — this is your spiritual act of worship. Rom. 12:1
SUBMIT TO GOD, RESIST SATAN God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you. James 4:6-8
GOD IS GREATER THAN SATAN The One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. I John 4:4
GOD WILL MEET ALL OUR NEEDS My God will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19
RESISTING SATAN Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” Matthew 16:23
SIN AS OPENINGS TO DEMONIZING Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24
ANCESTRAL & CHILDHOOD OPENINGS Therefore if anyone is in Christ, He is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! II Corinthians 5:17
DELAYED DELIVERANCE The Lord said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” … For when I am weak, then I am strong. II Corinthians 12:9-10
CONTINUING VICTORY Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith. I Peter 5:8-9
Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.
Matthew 5:27-28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
One more thing to have victory. You have to do all you can to not be in a position to be tempted. Probably online porn is what gets you for its so easily available. All my boys and I have Covenant Eyes on our computers. It monitors where we go and sends a report to whoever we choose to be our accountability partner. It doesn’t prevent us from accessing anything we shouldn’t, but knowing our parent will find out at the end of the week is a major deterrent. You can find them at covenanteyes.com I will gladly be your accountability partner if you’d like. If it would help I can suggest to your father that he get it for the whole family, for all your computers. I’ll do it in such a way as he’ll never know we talked. There are other sources available to get porn, too, so you have to make plans to stay out of those stores, away from cable TV alone, or whatever it is.